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I don't know how I'm supposed to sleep tonight. My heart is racing so fast. Lilly's on her way here! I've been cleaning my apartment all evening. My desk has been covered in crap for about 3 1/2 years now. Here's what it looks like now:
My desk after being cleanedI dug through some of my old pictures, and I managed to find a fairly recent one with my desk in it.
My desk before being cleaned.I don't have any "pre" pictures of my coffee table, but, trust me, it was
bad.
My living room coffee tableAnd, finally, because I often like to show off
way too much, here is my favorite music player software, amaroK, being played on the wall.
amaroK on my wallNow though, I am sitting here, listening to sappy love songs. Now, I don't listen to a whole lot of Steven Curtis Chapman, but one of his songs is on my playlist at the moment:
When Love Takes You In Now, this is practically the definition of sappy love songs. But, as I was listening to it, the first verse and chorus caught my attention:
I know you’ve heard the stories
But they all sound too good to be true
You’ve heard about a place called home
But there doesn’t seem to be one for you
So one more night you cry yourself to sleep
And drift off to a distant dream
Where love takes you in and everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
When love takes you home and says you belong here
The loneliness ends and a new life begins
The thing is that, as recently as a year ago (actually, more like 11 months or so), these words might as well have been spoken directly to me. That's how I felt. All the stories sounded too good to be true. Everyone had someone except me. It's really hard when, as a Christian, everyone tells you all your life that all you need is God, and then, even though He is a central part of your life, you still feel
alone. I thought that, for a long time, God was not bringing someone into my life because I could not be satisfied with just Him. It wasn't until a year and a half or so ago that the truth dawned on me.
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman, '
for she was taken out of man."
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Genesis 2:18-24
It was so
great to realize that this fear of mine was
wrong. God has created us in such a way that we often
need that companion, that helper, a wife. (obviously, for women, you would change "wife" in that sentance to "husband") Furthermore, as I read one
in a fuller context one of the passages that had always convinced me my desire for a wife was wrong, I realized that, even there, it does not say what I was thinking it did.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
1 Corinthians 7:8
When I read it in a fuller context though, I read also this:
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
1 Corinthians 7:1-7
The truth is that, as I read verse 8, I was seeing my present single status as implying that I should not get married. I am so glad I was so wrong. I wonder if other people get trapped in this logic?
The next verse of that Steven Curtis Chapman song described my deepest earthly desire. Namely, that:
And somewhere while you’re sleeping
Someone else is dreaming too
Counting down the days until
They hold you close and say I love you
And like the rain that falls into the sea
In a moment what has been is lost in what will be
The words are beautifully written in that verse. And, now, as I sit here in the early morning (or late night, depending upon how you look at it), unable to sleep because I know that my "someone else" is on a plane in route to come to me, I can't help but wanting to stand up before all the single, looking to not be single, Christians in the world and
shout out:
"Don't worry! God has a 'someone' in store for you, too!"I know that the reality really is that, in some cases, there never is someone. I pray for those lonely hearts because I know what it is like wondering if one is going to be one of those cases. I think though that, if one wants a special someone, and is willing to
wait for God to bring him/her to them, God will do it. He loves it when we have faith in His provisions. And, as Paul says:
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:9
Just never give up hope. And, most importantly, never give up on prayer. Always ask, in Jesus name, for the things you need. Our Lord is the one who sees our needs and provides.
"Do not lay a hand on the boy," he said. "Do not do anything to him. Now I know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son."
Abraham looked up and there in a thicket he saw a ram caught by its horns. He went over and took the ram and sacrificed it as a burnt offering instead of his son. So Abraham called that place The LORD Will Provide. And to this day it is said, "On the mountain of the LORD it will be provided."
Genesis 22:12-14
*Note: All pictures were taken after this was written (hence why that song doesn't show up on the amaroK playlist...Because I *know* you care....hehe
When Love Takes You In
I know you’ve heard the stories
But they all sound too good to be true
You’ve heard about a place called home
But there doesn’t seem to be one for you
So one more night you cry yourself to sleep
And drift off to a distant dream
Where love takes you in and everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
When love takes you home and says you belong here
The loneliness ends and a new life begins
When love takes you in
And somewhere while you’re sleeping
Someone else is dreaming too
Counting down the days until
They hold you close and say I love you
And like the rain that falls into the sea
In a moment what has been is lost in what will be
When love takes you in everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
And this love will never let you go
There is nothing that could ever
cause this love to lose its hold
When love takes you in everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
When love takes you home and says you belong here
The loneliness ends and a new life begins
When love takes you in it takes you in for good
When love takes you in
- Steven Curtis Chapman
"Lord, Please let all the flights run smoothly, and let her get some sleep on the plane! Thank you for her, Lord!"